Positive reinforcement and constructive feedback should both be used when there is a need to advise someone about a particular issue. But, in our society, people are blamed first for their shortcomings, and then they are advised on the matter at hand. Anyone who knows anything about the psychology of the mind will know that this is the worst way to try to bend someone to your will. If you tell them they are lazy and then ask them to help around the house, they are even less likely to do it than if you had just simply asked them to clean up their act. This is how all those rebellious teenagers are born.
Moreover, then this specific person is plagued with all the negative things that they have been told about themselves.
Is it too late to fix this and to rid the world of all this negative energy? Is it too difficult to not point fingers and just calmly explain what is wrong with a situation?
Indeed it is a difficult world we live in.
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