Brown Girl Problems

What would you do if there was only one thing you were good at and people tried to take that away from you? Rebel? Say no? Give up?

I know it depends on the situation. Well, consider this: my friend has been getting a lot of marriage proposals and the families want her to give up her job. She loves working. It has been her passion since she started studying. So what should she do? Give up everything for a guy she doesn't yet know? What is he sacrificing? She will be the one who will be uprooted from her house and go live with another family. Shouldn't he be doing everything in his power to help her feel comfortable?

I honestly don't understand this! Why are South Asian families like this? First, it's the whole issue of the girl getting married by the time she is 23. I mean, what is up with that? How is 24, or 25 for that matter, different from 23? They are all merely numbers. Oh but, God forbid, the girl reaches 26 years of age without being hitched! Armageddon! Catastrophe! What a disaster!

Then, there's the demanding attitudes of the boys and their families. The girl has to be thin, tall, fair and beautiful. Excuse me, are we running a "Customize your girl" factory? This is real life! You don't get everything you want! DEAL WITH IT! Oh and did I mention how girls cannot be demanding? It's not right for them to ask for a 'handsome' boy! Seriously!

Instead of carrying on this close minded tradition forever, why not give 'change' a go? Do we really have to follow what has been going on for 10000 of years before us? If yes, then just switch off your air conditioner, and power. Light a candle. Wash clothes by hand. Travel on horseback. Yes - don't just follow what you like or that which is easy and convenient.

And, to all the guys out there: beauty is not skin deep! There is more than that to a person. If you are going to be superficial, so be it. You will probably end up with a dumb barbie, with a jelly for a brain - and you'll deserve it. Have you never heard that the secret to long marriage and a happily married life is compromise, trust, honesty, love and GOOD CONVERSATIONS?!!

So, before you reject a girl based simply on the way she looks or walks, talk to her and get to know her.
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder - so look past the surface. I guarantee that you will not be disappointed!